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I have been in reconciliation for almost 4 years. I was triggered yesterday and can’t stop crying and revisiting the old hurts. Is this normal? I haven’t felt this way in 6 months and I thought I was done with these episodes.

HELL YES!
Just because you are reconciled and may be healed - doesn't mean you aren't human. And when it has been a while and those triggers come from left field - they hit a new kind of hard.

Feel the feels. Cry the tears. Take your time with it. Be gentle with yourself.

And...don't forget to then stand the F up and keep on going about being the bad ass that is Ttwrcg

Yes. Normal. Grief is not linear and I think of it as a healing release. My husband is 7 years out and he can still be triggered on something. If you sit with it, allow yourself to feel it, it will pass. It is scary because you don’t want to go back to where you were, that is unlikely what this is. You will release it and over time as you have triggers they will be less intense and hang out for less time. Totally normal. Honor what your mind and body is working to purge.

While I agree that this can be normal, I will ask---Do you believe that you were thorough in the processes leading up to the start of your reconciliation? By that, I mean did ask all the questions that you wanted, and got as close to the truth as you believe you can? You didn't try to sweep big issues under the rug, hoping that they would go away?

We don't have much of a backstory. Often times, this trauma will resurface because it has been unresolved. Not saying that is the case, but something you should ask yourself.