Is it an addiction?

Hi this is my first post here. My partner of 7 months cheated on me 6 weeks ago I found out 5 weeks ago. Our relationship was/ is really good aside from this infidelity, we spent several days together a week, he met my family and friends. I am very affectionate and loving so is he, his always telling me he wants to marry me and loves me, that his never been happier etc.
I found out only because one night I checked his phone, he kept it away for a couple of months and I had asked him why and he said it was to focus on me when we are together. Obviously the truth was he was messaging his ex, but worst of all multiple sxe workers and had booked and seen one on 16th October. As part of us attempting reconciliation he lets me know his whereabouts now, he has counselling with a sex therapist and I’ve just met his parents. My concern is now that I know will it just make him more careful? He lives with his parents his 45 so he has a lot more disposable income than most and it worries me. He is reassuring me a lot that it won’t ever happen again but his made that like a disociated part of him that he says no longer exists. He told me that his only used axe workers twice before this when he was single and his never cheated. But how do I believe this? Like exs he had no change in his behaviour other than hiding his phone, he makes out it’s not an addiction but surely men don’t go and pay for services they get for free with a partner ? Has anyone else been through this? Can he be trusted again? Am I just going to get hurt again? The day he cheated with one was the day I found out I be of my friends had just died it seems very cold to me and that same evening he was messaging me saying how much he loved me and would never cheat or hurt me. I’m ve been cheated on in the past and my dad cheated multiple times on my mum I feel like this is just life now - it makes me sad as I’m not like this I have him 100 percent

11 comments posted: Wednesday, November 29th, 2023