I Am So Lost

Hello all,

This is my first time posting on a forum for anything and honestly I'm not sure what I am expecting to get out of it. AITAH For wanting to ghost my cheating wife and her kids.

I am currently filling out divorce papers for my wife and I. She cheated on me a couple of years ago and lied about it only to do it again about a month ago. She has two children from a previous marriage that I have known since they were little. The way she mothered was pretty much the reason I fell in love with her . Over the years she has changed however. It started with the first incident and only got worst. What makes it worse is that she cheated with her kids father. I noticed things changing when she told me that he didn't like me coming with her to drop the kids off or pick them up and then we stopped having sex nor would she let me touch her. She denied it even after I found the underwear she bought for him and a friend of her sent me some texts she had sent him with some naked pictures. We would argue and she said her friend was making stuff up it got bad but I chose to I stick around to try and work things out but I think I was just being dragged along because she knew I cared for the children and used that in our arguments. This most recent one was with a guy at her job. At first it was benign but then some of the same things from the first incident started showing up. She would change the type of clothes she would wear at work, she used to call me all the time at lunch and then stopped. She would stay late at work or would take extra hours. This made me lose my mind. She would gaslight me constantly until I had enough and snooped. After finding texts confirming my suspicion things only got worst. The kicker on this one is that she finally admitted to the first incident when I confronted her. When we went to counseling she would argue that I should have not snooped and that what I did was just as bad. I know snooping is wrong but if any of you have ever been gaslit, you know the feeling is not something to be endured.

9 comments posted: Friday, November 17th, 2023