Should they know
Looking for general insight and thoughts. Some backstory, wife cheated, it can be argued it was the result of a failing marriage, but not looking to dig into that point. There was agreement to exclude the other guy, who is around 21 while wife is 38, from our lives, primarily for sake of the children who somewhat looked up to him as a good guy and family friend. That seemed to go well, even though we continued down the road of filing, everything self mediated. Now, after about 6-8 weeks of presumd isolation, she has reached back out to him. I don't really care what she does, I have moved on. I believe for the good of the children they should not know details of what she did. However, I feel that if he is brought back into their lives in any capacity, especially a romantic one, it would now become worse for the children (10,12,14) not to know, than it would be for them to know. I'm looking for multiple sources of counseling to help make sure I make the right decision should he return.
12 comments posted: Sunday, February 18th, 2024