Husband has emotional affair with son’s baseball coach’s wife. Need advice!

My husband and I have been married 16 years, but it’s been a hard 16 years filled with infidelity, lies, addiction, possible mental health issues. I have always sort of given in with him after his promises and failed attempts to get himself better. However, I just recently found inappropriate messages on his phone with a woman I considered a friend, who also happens to be the mom of our son’s best friend, and the wife of this son’s travel baseball coach. (Our son is 15). After I approached him about what I saw on his phone, his anger escalated and he got physical with me. I have filed for divorce and have an order of protection against him. Lines were crossed and there is no going back this time, no matter how much he uses his mental health issues as an excuse. However, I’m questioning if I should tell my son’s baseball coach that his wife and my husband were having inappropriate conversations on social media. I do not want to tell him for malicious reasons. They also have a lot of kids and I think I would feel really guilty for telling him and that being the reason their family breaks. I’m thinking more in terms of I have a protective order, coaches and parents are going to see that something is going on during games if we are 100ft + away from each other and getting a divorce. I’m afraid this will all come to light during baseball season and my son and his friend will be in the middle of it all. Should I inform the coach or should I pretend it didn’t happen?

11 comments posted: Wednesday, February 19th, 2025