Topic is Sleeping.
crazyblindsided (original poster member #35215) posted at 7:29 PM on Tuesday, November 10th, 2020
This is my first post here and I just have to say how much I love my new beginning. It feels like a new beginning for me as I can feel the peace of mind every day. All of the toxicity from my M is washing away. This is my life now and I get to do anything I want without having to get approval or hear any criticism about it.
My animals even seem happier at my new place. No more walking on eggshells or having a dark cloud over my head. It is like heaven and I'm embracing it.
No more thoughts of the A, why he had an A. The AP's are the furthest thing from my mind.
I never thought this would be possible. I thought I was going to be plagued by my Ex's A forever. While I am plagued by the time spent and how I was able to put up with abuse for so long, I no longer obsess about it.
My new beginning was gaining a new life with new hopes and aspirations. I plan to make the most out of the rest of my life and I can look forward to it now.
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:23 PM on Tuesday, November 10th, 2020
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 10:33 PM on Tuesday, November 10th, 2020
Welcome to the other side, CBS. Enjoy the NB fresh air and sunshine! 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 11:06 PM on Tuesday, November 10th, 2020
I love this! I had been waiting for you to get out from under that dark cloud so that I could hear how it felt for you to live!
DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).
Palmetto9213 ( new member #71217) posted at 11:16 PM on Tuesday, November 10th, 2020
CBS...isn't this peace just the best feeling ever???? If I want to watch Hallmark movies on repeat or a chick flick on the tube?-yes I can without listening to him bitching! Don't feel like cooking? Guess what-I don't have to! Decorating choices? Anything that makes ME happy and with no snide remarks about my selections! And the examples could go on and on about all these 'little things' that now make up my peaceful happy life.....welcome to your new beginning! Will there be 'down days'...of course there will be-but this SI group is here for you always. You've got this girl, and life is sooooo much better on this side
BS-59Y/O Female
WS-66 Y/O Male
Married 13 years
Divorce finalized 6-22-20
"Darling-that soft spot you have for broken things is going to make you bleed"....but I decided I was not willing to bleed to death!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:41 AM on Wednesday, November 11th, 2020
Awesome, CBS! So glad you're doing well.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
demolishedinside ( member #47839) posted at 9:38 AM on Monday, November 16th, 2020
Yay! I love the relief and peace in your voice. Welcome to your new life, friend! Isn’t it wonderful? Hugs to you.
BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy
twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 1:32 PM on Monday, November 16th, 2020
Fantastic!!!!
I'm 7yrs into my freedom and don't know if I will ever be able to live with a man again! I love running my own house without interference and doing as much (or as little) as I want :)
May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.
*********When you know better, you can do better*************
BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 5:16 PM on Monday, November 16th, 2020
YAY!!!
It's such a massive relief to be on the other side of all that drama isn't it??
You're doing great. Fist bump!
Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 9:28 PM on Monday, November 16th, 2020
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 4:49 AM on Tuesday, November 17th, 2020
I love this post !!! Thank you so much for sharing 
.
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 1:28 PM on Tuesday, November 17th, 2020
While I am plagued by the time spent...
I understand this, my friend!
I spent nine more years playing that game - ugh!
BUT - we are out of it now. We know we did all we could, etc. No shame in that.
I am ten years into my NB and it is still a great feeling!!!!!!
Onward and upward GF!
maise ( member #69516) posted at 5:55 PM on Tuesday, November 17th, 2020
This is an amazing update, I’m so happy for you!!
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
Anna123 ( member #70908) posted at 11:53 PM on Tuesday, November 17th, 2020
Yay!! I love it. Congratulations on moving forward successfully. It is such a RELIEF isn't it? No more wondering--- that is perhaps the best part.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:18 AM on Wednesday, November 18th, 2020
CBS...... Wow. Good for you and best wishes for an awesome new beginning.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
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