Topic is Sleeping.
BentandBroken (original poster member #72519) posted at 4:15 PM on Wednesday, December 16th, 2020
Hi everyone! I thought I signed up for SI Christmas cards, but I haven't received any instructions. How does this normally work?
20+ year relationship; Never officially married
Dday November 2019
4 wonderful grown children
WH multiple APs, currently involved with married COW
Kicked him out on Dday and that was that
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 5:06 PM on Wednesday, December 16th, 2020
Everything was updated on the Exchange thread here in Fun & Games (that red outlined one).
Your name is on the list, so you'll receive cards. The list of participants was posted back on November 4th, with a deadline of everyone's packages to be sent to the elves by December 1st.
I think there are quite a few people who will receive cards from others but didn't send any themselves. Things happen. Hopefully everyone receiving gets some much-needed joy from the cards others worked hard to put together. It's a really cool tradition.
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
BentandBroken (original poster member #72519) posted at 6:13 PM on Wednesday, December 16th, 2020
OMG, how did I miss that? Guess I better get on it.
20+ year relationship; Never officially married
Dday November 2019
4 wonderful grown children
WH multiple APs, currently involved with married COW
Kicked him out on Dday and that was that
lieshurt ( Administrator #14003) posted at 6:20 PM on Wednesday, December 16th, 2020
It's too late to submit your cards for this year.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
BentandBroken (original poster member #72519) posted at 6:25 PM on Wednesday, December 16th, 2020
Yes, I just read the thread and saw that. It's about par for how this month has gone. 
20+ year relationship; Never officially married
Dday November 2019
4 wonderful grown children
WH multiple APs, currently involved with married COW
Kicked him out on Dday and that was that
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 3:17 AM on Thursday, December 17th, 2020
There is always next year 
Enjoy your cards. I don't send them to receive them, as I expect most here feel, I send them because it puts a smile on my face. This is about giving, whether it's WOES and HT pulling Elf duty all on their own, people making handmade cards, or people sending out cards with no expectations of their return on investment. And everything Chili all ready said.
(If HT reads this yes, WOES gets top billing)
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 3:47 AM on Thursday, December 17th, 2020
I think I'd get a little salty about people who renege multiple years, but I sure understand how a mistake can happen, or how life can explode and you have to triage just to keep your head above water.
The things I get back make me very happy, but they are icing on the cake. Enjoy your card. 
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 3:48 AM on Thursday, December 17th, 2020
Let's just blame it on 2020 juju shall we?
I'm with Tred, I don't care if I get cards. I just wanna make people happy with mine!
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
Outoflove2020 ( member #72682) posted at 5:18 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2020
I did mention this on the main thread, but I want to re-iterate my own apologies for failing to follow up on this. I was not accessing the site as frequently as I had been doing and it completely slipped my mind. Having not done it before, I too was anticipating an email as a reminder. That is no excuse, I know. But hopefully an explanation. As well as the shit show that is infidelity which means I still struggle to focus and my memory is down the tubes....yet I can still remember A dates, right???
I truly appreciate this forum and this group of people and I'm sorry for letting you down.
DDay 1/15/2020.
Separated 3/1/2020
Still healing but in a better place
Topic is Sleeping.
