Topic is Sleeping.
DayDreamBeliever (original poster member #82205) posted at 6:03 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2024
He did it again. He was pushing for reconciliation. We got intimate too quick and I put the breaks on saying I needed time and within 2 months he slept with someone else. He didn't tell me as he didn't want to "ruin how good we got after".
I just wanted to say thank you for all the support I received on this board when I came in crisis. I hope your reconciliations go better than mine did. Divorce here I come!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:06 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2024
So sorry that you've found out about another AP. My XWH couldn't do the work, nor could he keep his hands to himself...so we D, too.
Life can be so much better when you're not dealing with a partner's unfaithfulness.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:12 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2024
So sorry he did it again. It really was the story of my sad marriage how I was always discovering him doing it again.
Life is so much better without this. Since leaving my xWS my life has been the best it has ever been.
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
DayDreamBeliever (original poster member #82205) posted at 8:07 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2024
I already feel better letting go of the weight of a relationship plagued with infidelity. I am sure sad and hard times will come but I hope the future is bright
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:25 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2024
The S/D forum is full of nice folks, many of whom, like you, went through a false R. It is devastating but also a bit empowering.
Come on over when you are ready for support and advice.
You already know you are strong— just wait until you no longer have a cheater holding you back.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
DayDreamBeliever (original poster member #82205) posted at 9:12 PM on Thursday, January 18th, 2024
Thank you BearlyBreathing. I will come over once it has all sunk in. I never thought I would feel such a weight lifted. I have only known him my whole adult life and feared being alone but I feel almost freed
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 8:02 PM on Saturday, January 20th, 2024
When I finally spoke the words, "We are getting a divorce", I felt a deep sense of peace forcthe first time in years. Although I grieved tg3 end of my marriage and family, for some time, that deep sense of peace was always there, just underneath.
Good luck on your journey. Hope you find your peace as well.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
Topic is Sleeping.
