Topic is Sleeping.
BRBLife (original poster new member #75288) posted at 11:10 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2024
I finished checking evey single day on his maps timeline, and put it all into a document. Compared the timeline to some credit card bills and voila, the checking out of his "real" hotel during a business trip, followed by an hour at a comfort suites before coming home was no wrong ping. Dates matched a comfort Inn charge on one of the credit cards. Indisputable proof, which is all I really wanted. I know some here thought I was dragging it out or pain shopping, but truly I wanted to know 100% that all these mounds of evidence in the timeline wasn't just circumstantial combined with wrong pings. Foolish hope I guess.
Std testing is done and so far all clear. I talk to my grown sons on Thursday, then attorneys, then my sisters, then d day likely next week. I'll have one son at the house and plan to do it on the porch, so I can leave if I need to easily. I'm certain he will at least start off supremely pissed. I also don't plan to show my hand at all as far as how I know, just gently encourage him to come clean. It'll be difficult to not lose my shit but I want any truth I can get. I'll play it by ear after that.
What I can't wrap my head around is he is constantly looking up nude or "hot" pics of any woman he can, constantly watching porn, most recently looked up hotel suites in "ABC" city with a pool in the room, yet stops me often at home and asks me for a sweet kiss, rests his hand on my hip while we sleep and has tried to put the moves on me a couple times. Is he 2 separate human beings??? Who does this???
This0is0Fine ( member #72277) posted at 12:18 AM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2024
Cheaters want more. It's not a choice between. It's both (or more than both!). It's just more. Always more.
Having his sweet and stable home life on top of his exciting illicit affair.
Having the cake and eating it too. Hence why we always call it cake eating.
Love is not a measure of capacity for pain you are willing to endure for your partner.
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 1:26 AM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2024
He is a cake eater! He wants both you and his AP. This0is0Fine is absolutely correct, it’s always more. Comes from supreme selfishness.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Topic is Sleeping.