Twitcher (original poster new member #85719) posted at 3:01 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2025
Ww just got my weird humour, I could tell her silly things I've seen or done or daft tiktoks and we'd laugh together and vice versa.
Now when these things happen I immediately think of her and wanting to be silly together, now I have no one to be silly with, no one to share with.
Pointless post here I know but that connection we have is going to take some replacing even after what she is doing to me I'm going to miss our friendship as much as anything.
Finallyworkingonme ( new member #84043) posted at 5:47 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2025
I understand that.
Truly as my husband sat telling me of the affair- in my disbelief, the first thing I thought was I will never hear his laugh (he’s got a great one) towards me again.
I relate to your feelings.
Me- mid 40’s - BS Him- mid 40’s- WH
Married 6/2000
4 1/2 month EA/PA. D-Day 4/4/2023
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 8:06 PM on Tuesday, January 28th, 2025
Completely understandable.
However those moments might dwindle over time if you reconcile but you are not happy, healed and feeling like things have been repaired.
The anger and resentment remaining in an unhappy marriage can take all the joy and humor from your life.
I believe you will find new connections as you move forward. I have good friends that I am glad I found, simply b/c H cannot be everything I need. No one can.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
