Possumlover (original poster new member #85336) posted at 6:37 PM on Sunday, February 16th, 2025
His A just keeps haunting me and I find my love for him is waning. I do have ups and downs of emotions, but I mostly find myself feeling sad and mad about his A. I want to look at his phone. I want to yell at him. I want to scream and cry and uggg. It sucks.
Logistically it would be a nightmare, but I wonder about a trial separation to see how I feel. Heck, I even thought of 2 weeks in VRBO somewhere by myself (with my dog of course!) to see, but that is not really enough time. It would be like a nice vacation and who wouldn’t like that!
Just curious if anyone has tried a separation before deciding if R or D is what you want.
Thanks!
DD 8/7/22
Together since 1990
Married in 1997
2 amazing sons
This0is0Fine ( member #72277) posted at 7:33 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2025
Two weeks in a "therapeutic separation" apart was enough for us to get clarity on R.
We expected to go longer.
Love is not a measure of capacity for pain you are willing to endure for your partner.
