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You are not pathetic, you are scared.

That seems to be the result of his manipulation over you, and he is so confident that he’s got you in his palm, that "life is great ".

You are even here questioning if you can justify in any way that isn’t too much self deception, hence a believable self lie, why he is consuming sex pills when is on trips away from you.

Basically he got you to gaslight yourself.

Your distress has roots in his manipulation.
You can’t break free from pain before you break free from his control.

confidence in myself to not be so afraid to make a wrong decision

happy, this jumped out at me. There is no "wrong" decision for you to make here. Talking to him about the pills isn't wrong. Going through his luggage isn't wrong. He's not entitled to privacy about his travel habits, not after he's cheated. Revealing your lack of trust should hurt him, not you! If he's a good person, he will take the opportunity to reassure you. If not, he'll get angry, defensive, or evasive.

Are you afraid he'll get angry at you? If he does, so what? Him being angry makes him a bad person in this situation, not you.

Are you afraid he'll leave you? That this will end your marriage? That is something you'll have to learn to make peace with. Divorce isn't the worst the thing in the world. Many people get divorced every day.

Are you afraid to be alone? Afraid that you'll be single forever? Again, not the worst thing in the world, and especially for older women, it can be a huge relief to be single.

That said, I know it can be difficult to confront someone. I hate arguments and confrontation, and I avoided both for a long time. Conflict stresses me out. Sometimes it's easier to just keep the peace, but unless the underlying problem is solved, you're just setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.

Thank you…
I’m afraid he will convince me he did nothing wrong. I don’t know if it’s solid proof. He gave it to someone (that does happen) he lost it, it was old so he threw it out. I must be mistaken That’s all I can come up with as reasons.
Wait..now as I’m typing this out, maybe I do have enough. None of that makes sense to me and I know what I saw.

Thank you…
I’m afraid he will convince me he did nothing wrong. I don’t know if it’s solid proof. He gave it to someone (that does happen) he lost it, it was old so he threw it out. I must be mistaken That’s all I can come up with as reasons.
Wait..now as I’m typing this out, maybe I do have enough. None of that makes sense to me and I know what I saw.

Good girl !💪

You are unmasking his bull even before you hear him saying! That’s breaking out the manipulative narrative of his clownness!

Yes nothing of that makes any sense, everything tells he is a pathological liar, the only way this weak manlet got away with his lies until know, is through his weaponizing your love against yourself.

(I know you might be my mom as my senior, but I’m rooting out for you to finally show him who is the boss and who should fear who. I am rooting hard for you)

Thank you…
I’m afraid he will convince me he did nothing wrong. I don’t know if it’s solid proof. He gave it to someone (that does happen) he lost it, it was old so he threw it out. I must be mistaken That’s all I can come up with as reasons.
Wait..now as I’m typing this out, maybe I do have enough. None of that makes sense to me and I know what I saw.

Of all of those potential excuses the main question remains. Why did he take them with him to begin with?

I guess the first question to be asked is why would he take it on a business trip in the first place? He doesn't need it on a business trip. I would go through his luggage just before he leaves and take the bottle out of there. He'll figure it out when he gets to his destination and then he will rack his brain trying to remember taking it out even though he swears it was in there before he left.

I would sitting on the couch with a drink in my hand as he walks through the front door and sees the bottle sitting on the coffee table. Then you can have the conversation that needs to be had. Living everyday in limbo is not living, it's existing. Life is meant to be lived, not just existed in

I guess the first question to be asked is why would he take it on a business trip in the first place? He doesn't need it on a business trip. I would go through his luggage just before he leaves and take the bottle out of there. He'll figure it out when he gets to his destination and then he will rack his brain trying to remember taking it out even though he swears it was in there before he left.

I would sitting on the couch with a drink in my hand as he walks through the front door and sees the bottle sitting on the coffee table. Then you can have the conversation that needs to be had. Living everyday in limbo is not living, it's existing. Life is meant to be lived, not just existed in

Actual good advice if you plan to confront without letting his gaslighting drag you into drama where he is comfortable lying to you.

"Why is the viagra out of your luggage? Was making sure the bag was empty / you hadn’t forgotten anything (if the bag was done) so I removed what you don’t need. Oh, you were looking for it? Is there’s something I need to know darling?"

Biggest middle finger to the ego of mr cheater ‘James Bond sipping champagne from a crystal flute’ fantasy persona, bringing him right in front of the mirror 🪞 where he can see he is actually ‘a circus 🤡 clown drinking stale piss from a plastic cup’.