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Glad this thread was restored.
I am sure higher power can translate :)

This morning I am praying for the BSs of SI, their children, the people around infidelity for whom exposure to it erodes and degrades their concept of marriage, and especially, as always, for the guilty ones. May we all find hope and courage through God’s love and wisdom, the work of Jesus, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

And I pray that Shehawk has an especially wonderful Christmas, in a way that she recognizes and feels as wonderful!

If anyone else would like specific prayer, please say. I like to think that the prayers of a repentant sinner are especially powerful, and did I mention that they are free? Zero cost to you, only upside. You will not find a better deal out there.

I am troubled today for a reason I can’t figure out. Just emotional. I see the bad things all around me although there is nothing actually wrong actual reason. Death and pain and hopelessness. I pray that if I need to be in this place that there is something important there. And I pray for OneSadLady/TotalIdiot, I don’t know what to pray, but that she will find peace. And for MH during this painful time of year, and for my husband, who works so hard, and my children. And for all of the members of SI.

Edited to correct a typo oops

Prayers for peace for you Pippin.

[This message edited by Shehawk at 3:08 PM, Monday, January 13th]

Pippin:

24 "‘"The Lord bless you
and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace."’

Numbers 6:24-26
New International Version

Praying this for you too Jimbetrayed!
Some times I forget these sorts of versus so thanks for posting.

Thanks Shehawk!

Shehawk and JimBetrayed62, thank you both for your kind messages. I realized I brace myself when opening SI, and to find unexpected kindness is sweet.

I’ve been praying to see more of God’s love in the world, to know him better. I think - I’m able to appreciate beauty, and to be grateful for comfortable and comforting blessings, but now if I want to know him better, it’s to see how gracefully, cleverly, and lovingly he manages pain, destruction, and death. So you have to see those things first, which can be jarring, before you see the beauty of his love. And look here! A concrete example. I was discouraged by the pain and destruction of people who participate in SI, and I was shown the gentle way he worked through you. A small moment to treasure.

JimBetrayed62, I pray with Psalm 67 every week for one of my Bible study groups (usually on Wednesdays). It is from that numbers passage! It felt wonderful to have the same words applied to me that I use for others. Thank you.

God, this week I am giving thanks that you are at work in the hardest and most difficult places of human experience, up to and including death. I believe you can bring good from anything, and ask that you bring your attention and care to all of the people of SI, and especially the guilty ones. Please, help them not feel oppressed by their shame or guilt, and able to look squarely at what they have done and be eager to help those hurt by it, knowing that they are still loved and cherished.

And I ask that you bring special attention to Shehawk and JimBetrayed62, that you continue to strengthen their faith and work in their lives in whatever way is needed.

I believe I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living

Wait on the Lord

Be strong and let your heart take courage

Wait, I say, on the Lord

(Ps 27)

[This message edited by Pippin at 4:25 PM, Thursday, January 16th]

Amen. Thank you for that prayer

Hello:

I would like prayer for my FWS and myself. In a separate post I’ve described how I think we had a stillborn reconciliation a couple decades ago that never dealt with my trauma or never brought my wife to an expression of remorse and recognition of the pain she had caused. I have and continue to forgive, but I believe we missed a crucial phase that was and is necessary to bring complete healing.

Please pray for wisdom for both and the Spirit’s involvement to bring true healing and full reconciliation/

[This message edited by JimBetrayed62 at 11:29 PM, Tuesday, January 21st]

God, you know the depths of pain of betrayal firsthand. You submitted to the pain of betrayal so that you could demonstrate your love and faithfulness to us. Your commitment and our unwillingness to know how we have wronged you is so unfathomable that sometimes we look away. Please, help the wife of JimBetrayed62 to see his love and forgiveness, and to be willing to face what she has done so that she can help him, and herself, and their marriage to heal. Be with them during their conversations and the moments they have no words. Give her courage, Lord, and comfort for both of them.

I will keep praying for your wife and you and your marriage daily, even if I don’t log in or post. The prayers of a reformed sinner are powerful :) Warmly, pippin

This is a beautiful thread. Haven’t been around much lately but was glad to see this here. My faith is what made the biggest impact in my healing.

I have been praying for all of you. I try to remember to pray daily for those affected by infidelity and hope that God can bring healing and peace as He did for me. I will put all of you in my rosary intentions for tonight.

Today I am giving thanks for the faith of AintDatSpecial, that it helped her healing. I'm praying for JimBetrayed62 and his wife, and for all of the people who have places in their marriage that are unhealed and unaddressed. May they be willing to leave the comfort and predictability of their daily lives to enter into the tumult of drawing closer. May they cling to the Truth as the savior that it is. I pray for my husband and that any barriers between us continue to be removed, and I am so thankful that I share my life with him.

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. (Hebrews 12)

(With thanks to Tim Keller, who points out that discipline in English is a translation of the Greek paideia, from which we get pediatrics. God is not disciplining us as an angry teacher or coach, but as a father, who wants the thriving and flourishing of his children)

AintDatSpecial, I hope at some point you will share what it looked like that your faith impacted your healing, and thank you for the rosary prayer!

Does anyone else want prayer? It is free, no calorie, and you do not have to believe in the same God as I do or any God.