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I just posted yesterday about my husband violating my boundaries by getting a massage while travelling…….. found escorts and porn on his computer, told him to leave, my friends are here for a sleepover and I’m a little drunk. I called a lawyer. I’m done. Spent `14 months at rock bottom and held this family together…..I’m out

[This message edited by SatyaMom at 2:58 AM, Saturday, February 15th]

Oh my dear Satya I am so sorry because this is so damn typical. Always on a freaking holiday we find this crap out. Good for you, I always did think this was going to have to happen (ask me how I KNOW.) I know you are white hot right now with resolve and please please keep coming here for moral support, as you have the waves of it all wash over your boat. You sure DID go the extra mile. I wonder why we try so hard myself. It's due to our humanity and warm hearts. Someday you will see that he was the big-time loser. But it really SUCKS right now. I send you HUGS from one who has BEEN THERE!

So sorry, Satya. My XWH violated my boundary at 18 months and I was done.

Keep working on healing you. Expect to experience stages of grief at different times. That's ok and normal. You will be able to get through this.

Since my D, I've been able to find peace and contentment because I'm not dealing with XWH and his baggage. My relationships with my kids is stronger.

Really be kind to yourself right now.

Thank u for responding. I just posted under " just found out" can you pls go there and see all my ? I really need help

I’m so sorry. You’ve given it a real go and done your part, and he hasn’t changed. He might’ve white knuckled it a bit, but this is not someone to spend more years of your life on. I’m glad you have friends and are resolved. Hang in there.

Ugh. The worst. BUT… but. now you know. Take your pain and anger and channel into getting out of infidelity for good. And what wonderful friends you have to have a sleep over with you— that’s amazing.

You have shown such strength. You can do this. In another 14 months, you won’t recognize the place you are in now.

I also spent a year in false R— I totally get it. But think of it as finally getting the cancer diagnosis. Now you can treat the problem and heal.
Not what you wanted but now you can excise the cancer before it does more damage.

((Hugs))

Dammit. I'm so sorry, Satya, but I'm glad you have the truth.

Thanks everyone. I’m am seeking CALM. I am shocked but also very sad. I guess my husband can love and adore me and be sick and lie and sleep with prostitutes :(

I told my son he is calm but furious with my husband and told me to get on a train and come to him so I’m going to do that. His birthday is Wednesday. He just called and said he wants to change his last name to my maiden name :(.

Awful

I’m very sorry to hear you’ve experienced a Dday 2. 1 Dday is bad enough, let alone another. For what it’s worth, you seem to be adamant that this time you’re just done and the damage is irreparable. I hope you find some peace knowing that you’ve hit your limit with your WH and you will not tolerate his continued wayward behaviour. You deserve so much better.